Easy Does It
One of the benefits I receive by attending Nar-Anon meetings is that I see and do things differently than I had in the past. “Easy does it” was hard for…
Surrender To Change
Since I am not able to think like an addict, my first instinct is to react to their attitudes and choices with anger, fear and frustration. This keeps my focus…
Obsession
I was a person whose life revolved around the addict. It was, I thought, my job to anticipate what he wanted and needed, and to give it to him –…
Changing My Reactions
After I had attended Nar-Anon meetings for several months, something new happened. I was in the middle of a big fight with the addict, who was still in active addiction.…
Reassurance
I woke up one morning with a headache, feeling very needy. I wanted to be loved and to be reassured by my partner. I was looking at my partner to…
Higher Power In Control
At the age of fourteen, my daughter started using alcohol and within six months, I started attending a Twelve-Step program. Six years later, she told me she was using several…
Living In The Present
In the Nar-Anon program, I learn that the present moment is all I have and that it is enough. Only by living in today can I be fully capable of…
Just For Today
Just for today: I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that “most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
Step Three
I thought I had always believed in a Higher Power. I had been raised in a religious home and went to church every Sunday. I had attended twelve years of…
The Power Of Expectations
As a parent of two teenage addicts, my life was full of frustration and turmoil. Although I was responsible for their actions as minors, my example and teachings were cast…