Anger
My father had a terrible temper. My mother often told me that I had my father’s temper. The day I hit my father over the head with his dinner plate,…
The Lies That Blind
Falling in love with an addict was a blinding experience. Our life together never lacked drama, though it did eventually lack all else. We went through car accidents and a…
Abuse – The Ghost of My Past
I was sitting at a meeting one evening and the topic of childhood abuse came up. By listening to others share, I was reminded of my own childhood abuse, which…
Humility
Before discovering Nar-Anon, I was fairly certain that I had all the answers when it came to knowing how to stop the addict from using drugs. Of course, I tried…
Letting Go – Growth
When I went to my first Nar-Anon meeting, I was confused and l was looking for answers. I did not know how much to do for the addict. I wanted…
Step Eight
Step Eight does not ask that I list the harm others have done to me. It asks that I list the harm I have done to others and be willing…
Detaching With Love
I think I am finally beginning to realize an important goal of the Nar-Anon message, to accept I have no control over the drugs or over the addict, and to…
Kindness
My life experiences taught me to suspect and question the kindness of others. I thought there would always be a price to pay when someone was kind to me or…
Coping With Active Addiction
I believe that someone with an active addict in his or her life must have invented Caller ID. Before attending Nar-Anon, I did not know I had a choice. I…
Never Too Late To Learn
Looking back on my life, I do not think there was ever a time that I did not live with active addiction. My father was an addict who my mother…