No Harmony
I wrote this poem in the early days of my frustration and confusion that came from trying to deal with the craziness of our addicted son. I was so angry…
Freedom With Humility
Humility was a tough concept for me to understand. I confused it with humiliation. I learned that humility is the quality of being modest or respectful. I learned that humiliation…
Helping
How do I make the transition from caretaker or enabler to helper? The best way to help addicts is to seek help for myself first. One of life’s toughest lessons is that…
The Twelve Steps of Nar-Anon
There are times when I think I hate the Twelve Steps. When I am angry, sad, tired, and deep in grief, I know I am trying to exercise control over…
Acceptance And Willingness
I am learning in Nar-Anon that before I can make changes that are best for me, I have to accept the reality of my situation. Then I need the willingness…
Nobody’s Perfect
Just because I do not use drugs does not make me perfect. I came to Nar-Anon because of the addict, the imperfect one. There was nothing wrong with me. I…
Self-Supporting – Tradition Seven
When we open our meetings, we do a series of readings. Our group felt it would be helpful to not only read one tradition at the start of each meeting…
Halt
I am learning: Don’t get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired. When I lose it with anyone at work or at home, I am usually one of the above. As…
No Expectations
One of the hardest things for me to grasp in Nar-Anon was the idea of having no expectations for the addict in my life. Having always had high expectations of everyone…
Step Seven Meditations
When I take Step Seven, I become humble and willing to accept my Higher Power’s help. I come to believe that everything is happening, as it should be. I trust…