Anxiety
It is easy to let anxiety consume every waking moment when we live with an active addict. I felt a false sense of control and became anxious when I thought the addict…
Progress Not Perfection
I am a recovering doormat, and a grateful member of Nar-Anon. I was married to an addict for a number of years and went through more suffering than was necessary…
Riding Riptides
I tried to find a metaphor to describe how I view your life on drugs. It finally came to me as I sat at the ocean’s edge. I now realize…
An Act Of Love – Forgiveness
I used to feel that forgiveness was something I did for someone else. In reality, I need to forgive for myself. My past perception of forgiveness was to forget the hurtful…
Acceptance With Patience
Patience is the ability to endure waiting or a delay without becoming annoyed or upset. I am living in a dysfunctional situation with an active addict whose lifestyle is unacceptable…
Blame
It is easy for me to blame the addicts in my life for all my problems; but blaming them does not improve my situation, and it certainly does not improve theirs.…
Making Amends
I was really angry and confused when I heard I had to make amends. Why would I have to say I am sorry for anything I have done? It was…
Wants
I wanted and prayed for something good to happen for me, and Nar-Anon was where I found it. The old adage “let the addicts hit their bottom” is difficult for…
Making Decisions
When living in the chaos of addiction, I find that I have trouble making decisions from the simplest to the biggest issues that life throws at me; the issues that will affect…
Awareness Brings Action
One day a devastating awareness changed my life. I was working and my children were in school when I became aware of the drug abuse within my family. Addiction crept into…