We Are No Longer Alone
I do not seem to be able to think about anything but my loved one. I keep projecting all the “what ifs” and how my life “could have been.” All…
No More Secrets – Staying Connected
I have always wanted to belong to something or to someone, or to have someone belong to me. This longing and desire was the driving force that propelled me to…
Honesty
As our two sons were growing up, my husband and I stressed that they should always be honest with us. We told them repeatedly that they would not be punished…
Turn Our Will And Our Lives Over
I have always felt that I could solve everyone’s problems but no one would listen to me. I felt more and more helpless as I watched a loved one slowly destroy…
Choices
Before Nar-Anon, I would have said that my life was in control. I knew what I wanted. I thought that if only the addict would stop using, everything would be…
The Miracles Of Step Three
The key words in Step Three for me are “decision, will, and care.” Each time I read this step, I think about my part in making my life better. My part is…
Faith
When I was young, I thought I had a lot of faith, but after the years of living with an addict, my faith seemed to disappear. How could so many…
Surrender To Change
Since I am not able to think like an addict, my first instinct is to react to their attitudes and choices with anger, fear and frustration. This keeps my focus on…
Easy Does It
One of the benefits I receive by attending Nar-Anon meetings is that I see and do things differently than I had in the past. “Easy does it” was hard for…
Obsession
I was a person whose life revolved around the addict. It was, I thought, my job to anticipate what he wanted and needed, and to give it to him –…