As a newcomer, it was suggested that I attend several different meetings because each meeting has it own atmosphere and reflects the personality of its members. When I was recently asked to start a new Nar-Anon meeting, I was not sure what I wanted to do or, to be more specific, what I could not do. Therefore, I asked one of the long-time members for instructions. It was suggested that I study the Twelve Traditions. I learned from Tradition Four that each group decides when, where, and how they will conduct their meetings. They also determine how they will open and close their meetings. Some groups open their meetings with the reading of the Serenity Prayer and close with Friendship – Nar-Anon Style. Others open with the preamble and several readings from the Nar-Anon Blue Booklet and close with the Serenity Prayer. Every group is free to choose its meeting structure and program topics, such as table meetings open to all to share or having a single speaker per meeting. Tradition Four gives Nar-Anon groups freedom regarding nearly all aspects of their structure. We are asked that the group ensures its decisions are made with the overall purpose of the Nar-Anon fellowship in mind. We should refrain from discussing non-Nar-Anon philosophies in our meetings, and try to limit group discussions to Nar-Anon principles.

Thought for Today: Nar-Anon has taught me that I have choices and I am free to practice my program as I choose. However, our Nar-Anon Family Groups should remain clear about their primary purpose and why they were formed.

“Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other Nar-Anon Family Groups, or N.A. as a whole.” ~ Nar-Anon Tradition Four