Acceptance
While preparing to speak at a Nar-Anon convention, I was asked, when I introduced myself, to also mention who was my “qualifier.” The word “qualifier” reminded me of how often…
Think First
The Nar-Anon slogan “Think” is simple but profound. It is easy for those of us who live with an addict to be carried away with our feelings and emotions. We…
Focus On Myself
Shortly after my son was born, his father was arrested for violence while under the influence of cocaine and alcohol. His bail and attorneys were expensive. We could not pay our…
Resentment And Gratitude
My minor son, who is the addict in my life, has been in recovery for several months now. As his father, I am legally responsible for him. For the first…
Powerlessness
I admit that I am powerless over my life’s situation, that my life is unmanageable. My friends do not want to be around me when I am out of control.…
Release With Love
The addict in my life called and asked for a ride. I told her that I had an appointment and did not have the time. She asked if I could…
Expectations
Over the last week or so, the addict had been saying that she really meant it this time when she stated that she was ready to go into a rehab…
Sharing With Humility
I came to an open Nar-Anon meeting today although I wanted to go shopping. I knew I needed a dose of Nar-Anon recovery: Steps One, Two and Three. Because I…
Control of Boundaries
When I have a difficult time distinguishing between my unhealthy, controlling behavior and the healthy behavior of setting boundaries, I look at my feelings and motives about what I am…
Literature
How do I feel today? Not so good. I am alone. The addict has been out using for days, my phone has been cut off, the addict has our car,…