Let Go
I do not know if I have yet learned how to let go, or if I ever will. Lately, I have been concentrating on myself and not focusing on the…
The Trance
My mother had intense mood swings, and my father was emotionally unavailable. To protect myself from my mother’s emotional and physical abuse, I went into a world that felt safer:…
Choices
Before Nar-Anon, I would have said that my life was in control. I knew what I wanted. I thought that if only the addict would stop using, everything would be…
Tradition Four
As a newcomer, it was suggested that I attend several different meetings because each meeting has it own atmosphere and reflects the personality of its members. When I was recently…
Addiction Is A Disease
I obtained a better understanding of the disease of addiction when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I came to see clearly that although I did not have power over…
Faith
When I was young, I thought I had a lot of faith, but after the years of living with an addict, my faith seemed to disappear. How could so many…
The Miracles Of Step Three
The key words in Step Three for me are “decision, will, and care.” Each time I read this step, I think about my part in making my life better. My…
Easy Does It
One of the benefits I receive by attending Nar-Anon meetings is that I see and do things differently than I had in the past. “Easy does it” was hard for…
Surrender To Change
Since I am not able to think like an addict, my first instinct is to react to their attitudes and choices with anger, fear and frustration. This keeps my focus…
Obsession
I was a person whose life revolved around the addict. It was, I thought, my job to anticipate what he wanted and needed, and to give it to him –…