The Nar-Anon slogan “Think” is simple but profound. It is easy for those of us who live with an addict to be carried away with our feelings and emotions. We tend to get angry and frustrated with them, because we love them so much. We want to protect them from themselves and the world of addiction. Why can we see so clearly what is going on around them and the impact that addiction has on their lives and others? They are on a road to self-destruction!
It is not our role to make the addict see what they are doing. If we rant and rave about their behavior to them and others, it only strains our relationship and accomplishes nothing. Fortunately, we do not have to wait for them to change to maintain our serenity and peace of mind. We only need to stop and shift the focus back to ourselves and take responsibility for our actions as our way is not working and we must seek another.
If we step aside, the addict may reach his or her own breaking point. Our interference is our own form of blindness. We must be aware of this and think first before saying what is on our minds. We can do more damage than good with our words.
Thought for Today: Reminding myself to think first before speaking allows me to focus on the intent as well as the potential feelings and impact my words may convey.“Take no thought for the future actions of others. Neither expect them to be better or worse as time goes on, for in such expectations you are really trying to create. This is God’s job, not yours. Love alone can create. Love and let be.” ~ Nar-Anon Blue Booklet