The Gift of Today
My need to be in control had caused me to obsess with worry about the future and to have regrets of the past. When the addict was out using, I would mistakenly…
Spiritual Awakening
I remember coming into the Nar-Anon program and thinking that I was going to get help. I did not know what kind of help, but I was hoping that my…
Justification
When I get angry, I feel as though I have to justify my actions and defend why I feel the way I do. This started long before my children began…
Controlling To Changing
Some of the lessons I am learning at my Nar-Anon meetings are that I cannot control someone else, feel their emotions, hear their thoughts, or change them. These have not…
Serenity Prayer
God – my Higher Power, the one I petition to help me through the darkness that envelopes me; Grant me the Serenity – allow me to have serenity, a disposition free of…
Why Me?
Before I came to the Nar-Anon program, I named myself “Pitiful Pearl.” I was so obsessed by worry, fear, obligation, guilt, and coping with the addict’s behavior that I could…
Allow The Process
I tried to manipulate the affairs of my life to reduce the pain of others. That eventually caused me pain. I could not stand to watch other people make mistakes…
Anxiety
Anxiety is defined as “the strong wish to do a particular thing, especially if the wish is unnecessarily or unhealthily strong.” This certainly describes the way I feel and how…
Think
Today I express my fears and know that my Higher Power will control the outcome. I am where I need to be. When I feel anxiety, I can focus on…
Family Disease
I found that I was anxious, angry and out of control. The addicts in my life had become my main focus. I was lost most of the time in anger,…