Today Is A New Day!
I was a spectator on the sidelines of life, never a participant marching in the joyous parade of the living. I lived in fear of losing the addict to the…
Change
My spouse was using drugs when we met, but things started to change for the worse once we married. All we did was stay at home and all our money…
Familiarity
By watching my dysfunctional alcoholic parents, I had become familiar with unacceptable behavior. I chose men that were alcoholics and batterers. My last lover was an addict. When we met,…
Perspective
“E quindi uscimmo a riveder le stele” – (And so we emerged again to see the stars). This Latin phrase is the last line of Dante’s Inferno. After attending Nar-Anon meetings for…
Trust – Tools of the Program
My loved one suffers from the disease of addiction. By living with active addiction, I learned that I could not trust the addict. I could not trust that he would…
Dealing With Addiction
I think that the message of Nar-Anon is taking hold in my brain. The first message – I have no control – is a great help. I have seen the…
Step Six
Step Six is an action step. It teaches me it is time to slough off the old, to apply the new. I once heard someone use the illustration of buying…
Forgiveness
As I practice the Twelve Steps of Nar-Anon, I learn to make healthier choices. I can now identify times in my life when I have made less than healthy choices. There is…
Responsibility
Because of the drug use, the stealing and lying, and the chaos that goes along with active addiction, I asked the addict to leave our home. The chaos persisted, and…
Changing What I Can
One of the greatest things about the Nar-Anon program is how it can change our lives. I think of the members in my group who share how they have grown and…