I am living in a period full of hope: I feel hope without any basis for expecting obtainment. This is how I have been feeling for the last several weeks since the addict said she has had enough and wants to re-enter normal society. I told her I wanted to help her and I was hopeful she would succeed.
Nar-Anon has taught me that loving and positive attitudes are more productive than the ones I used in the past. I have come to realize that I have to stop insisting she go into a rehab program because this is more a hindrance than a help in her life. I have come to believe that expectations were the source of all the anger and anxiety that had taken over my life. She could still leave the program before finishing and continue her self-destruction. Or, she could finish the program and I would choose to make adjustments to have her back into my life. I have learned that life can be full of twists and turns and I can face them one by one, as they come, using the slogan “Easy Does It.”
Thought for Today: Today I am hopeful the addict will complete her recovery program. If this does not happen, I still have my own program that teaches me I am powerless over her. I have a Higher Power to take care of me, and she has her own Higher Power to take care of her.“We need to learn to give up our expectations about outcomes and catch ourselves when we are trying to fix anyone. We look to find a balance between taking care of ourselves and helping others; we can be available to those we want to help without taking on all their burdens.” – Paths to Recovery