Limits
Once upon a time, there was a desert nomad with a camel. When night fell, the nomad pitched his tent near an oasis, tied his camel to a stake and…
Anxiety
It is easy to let anxiety consume every waking moment when we live with an active addict. I felt a false sense of control and became anxious when I thought…
Making Choices
In my wallet, I have a pair of golden earrings. They are small and not of much value. I keep them there hoping that one day I can give them…
An Act of Faith
The Nar-Anon program has changed my world. Well really, the world has not changed; it is my thinking that has changed. I have learned to look at how and why…
Progress Not Perfection
I am a recovering doormat, and a grateful member of Nar-Anon. I was married to an addict for a number of years and went through more suffering than was necessary…
An Act Of Love – Forgiveness
I used to feel that forgiveness was something I did for someone else. In reality, I need to forgive for myself. My past perception of forgiveness was to forget the…
Riding Riptides
I tried to find a metaphor to describe how I view your life on drugs. It finally came to me as I sat at the ocean’s edge. I now realize…
Blame
It is easy for me to blame the addicts in my life for all my problems; but blaming them does not improve my situation, and it certainly does not improve…
Making Amends
I was really angry and confused when I heard I had to make amends. Why would I have to say I am sorry for anything I have done? It was…
Acceptance With Patience
Patience is the ability to endure waiting or a delay without becoming annoyed or upset. I am living in a dysfunctional situation with an active addict whose lifestyle is unacceptable…