I came to Nar-Anon seeking answers, hope and guidance. I have learned to face my fears, doubts, anger, resentments, and pain. I continue to work on removing my negative thoughts and assumptions that can lead me into arguments with the addict, arguments that often lead me right back down the same road that first brought me to Nar-Anon. Before coming to meetings, I felt helpless. I was torn between feeling protective of the addict and burdened by the responsibility. I have come to realize that I cannot make the addict change nor can I know what he is doing every minute. Nar-Anon has helped me to believe in myself, trust my feelings and feel safe again. This has become more important to me than controlling the addict, which is what I tried to do in the past. I have found that if I live in the moment, I can face anything. I do not need to dwell on the negative or worry about what will happen next. I will read Nar-Anon literature, talk with my sponsor and attend meetings. I will also do service work which teaches me how to get along with other people, because our service structure is based on the Twelve Traditions and Twelve Concepts of Nar-Anon. This will keep me focused on my program and me.

Thought for Today: Just for today I will not criticize one bit, not find fault with anything (including myself), and not try to improve or regulate anyone but myself.

To climb steep hills requires a slow pace at first.” William Shakespeare