I have my own opinions and I need to be careful because sometimes my opinions, spoken out loud, will become gossip. I told a friend about another friend. Then that friend talked to the other friend about it. I was then confronted directly about my gossiping. If only I had not said anything in the first place. That is how my Higher Power shows me that I have stepped out of line. I did not mean for my other friend to find out what I had said about her. Now she was asking me about what I had said. Two old sayings came into my mind: “What goes around comes around,” and “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. “To not participate in gossip, I need to begin with me. I need to remember that I should not talk about other people in a way that is harmful. I need to realize when I am being judgmental. When I recognize that a conversation is moving towards gossip, I need to be able to stop myself from participating. I need to remember that my close friends trust me with their confidential stories, and if I repeat those stories, it will turn into gossip. I will pray to my Higher Power to show me what changes I need to make in my behavior and that I will be willing to make those changes.

Thought for Today: Nar-Anon teaches us that we are in a program to help one another by sharing our experience, strength and hope. Gossip contradicts this purpose, harms the unity referred to in Tradition One, and might eventually cause destruction of the group.“Who gossips to you will gossip of you.” Turkish Proverb