Sharing My Newfound Hope
When I started in Nar-Anon, I knew my life was out of control. Before I went to my first meeting, I had exhausted every resource I could think of and…
Reactions
I believe that I have always been a perfectionist. If there was problem lurking somewhere in my family, I found it and worked on it until it was solved. My…
Keeping My Distance
Recently I was having lunch on the veranda of a condo with a wonderful view of a beautiful beach. I was peacefully watching the pelican fish, and a pair of…
Hope Versus Expectations
I am living in a period full of hope: I feel hope without any basis for expecting obtainment. This is how I have been feeling for the last several weeks…
The Gift of Today
My need to be in control had caused me to obsess with worry about the future and to have regrets of the past. When the addict was out using, I would mistakenly…
Spiritual Awakening
I remember coming into the Nar-Anon program and thinking that I was going to get help. I did not know what kind of help, but I was hoping that my…
Justification
When I get angry, I feel as though I have to justify my actions and defend why I feel the way I do. This started long before my children began…
Controlling To Changing
Some of the lessons I am learning at my Nar-Anon meetings are that I cannot control someone else, feel their emotions, hear their thoughts, or change them. These have not…
Serenity Prayer
God – my Higher Power, the one I petition to help me through the darkness that envelopes me; Grant me the Serenity – allow me to have serenity, a disposition free of…
Why Me?
Before I came to the Nar-Anon program, I named myself “Pitiful Pearl.” I was so obsessed by worry, fear, obligation, guilt, and coping with the addict’s behavior that I could…