My Nar-Anon group leader had finished a reading from the Nar-Anon Blue Booklet. It still rings in my ears, “…to release our addicts with love, and cease trying to change them.” I wondered. I took another look at the reading and I was reminded that it actually says, “We only ask… for the grace to release our addicts with love and cease trying to change them.”
I understand the word “grace” to mean a special favor or a privilege. Rudyard Kipling said, “Each in his place, by right, not grace, shall rule his heritage.” Nar-Anon readings suggest that if I ask for a change in my thinking, versus a change in the addict, I am practicing the principle of release. What is stopping me from releasing my addicted loved one? Am I still seeing addiction as a moral issue, and am I obsessively holding the addict to my self-righteous standard of behavior?
Step Two suggests that there is a Power greater than myself that can restore me to sanity and allow me to accept the addict as he is. Step Six gives me the opportunity to become entirely ready to have my unforgiving and judgmental defects removed. I realize I will find no peace if all I find is fault.
Thought for Today: I ask my Higher Power for help in using the Twelve Steps to release the addict with love and cease trying to change him. I am freed from my feelings of anxiety and fear of the future.
“All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered; the point is to discover them.” ~ Galileo Galilei