The Nar-Anon Tools
All of the Nar-Anon tools help me live day by day. The one that helps me the most is sponsorship. When I choose a sponsor, I slowly make a bond…
Improving Balance
Every morning before getting out of bed, I would remind myself to keep my day running smoothly, to see that I was not carried away with doing a million things…
Let Go Or Be Dragged
Nar-Anon has many slogans. The purpose of these slogans is to remind us that we can respond differently and improve our situation as we face the problems caused by the…
Fear To Faith
Many of us came to our first Nar-Anon meeting desperate for answers. I wanted to hear some magic words or be given exact instructions on how to fix the addict.…
Step Seven – Removing Arrogance
The addict in my life was redecorating his bedroom and picked a color for the walls. I questioned, “Since he’s always stoned, how would he know what color to choose?”…
Acceptance
While preparing to speak at a Nar-Anon convention, I was asked, when I introduced myself, to also mention who was my “qualifier.” The word “qualifier” reminded me of how often…
Think First
The Nar-Anon slogan “Think” is simple but profound. It is easy for those of us who live with an addict to be carried away with our feelings and emotions. We…
Focus On Myself
Shortly after my son was born, his father was arrested for violence while under the influence of cocaine and alcohol. His bail and attorneys were expensive. We could not pay our…
Resentment And Gratitude
My minor son, who is the addict in my life, has been in recovery for several months now. As his father, I am legally responsible for him. For the first…
Powerlessness
I admit that I am powerless over my life’s situation, that my life is unmanageable. My friends do not want to be around me when I am out of control.…