Violence comes in many forms: physical, verbal and mental abuse and ugly stares full of hate. I have experienced them all. I remember being pushed, hollered at, and pinched by my grandfather who was partially responsible for raising me. He was an alcoholic who was drunk most of the time. His violence extended to sexually abusing us as young children. When my father died, my mother took her grief out on me. She expected me to be her number one assistant because she was left to raise four children. Later, I married a man who was not only violent but also an addict.

I believe those years spent experiencing violence in its various forms gave me an inner strength to carry on in this life. I know I no longer need to allow or tolerate abuse from others. I know because I deserve better treatment. I also gained awareness and sensitivity towards the hurts of others. I am able to listen, learn and guide without judgment. Sharing with someone in Nar-Anon I can trust is a powerful healing tool. With my newfound hope and support, I feel free and able to continue on with my life. I learned in Nar-Anon that I have the power to make my own choices for a healthier and better way of life.

Thought for Today: No one deserves to be abused; we all deserve to be safe. With the help of my Higher Power, I will no longer continue to act like a victim. I will choose to get help and recovery from past abuse and make a better life for myself. I will help others do the same.

“Domestic violence should not happen to anybody. Ever. Period. But it does – and when it does there is help.” ~ Domestic Violence Handbook