When I first began coming to Nar-Anon meetings, a fellow with many years in a Twelve Step program would constantly remind me, “It’s about the steps. Use the steps.” I felt similar to a young Jedi Warrior who was trying to blow away someone else’s evil empire of addiction, being told to “Use the Steps, Luke. Use the Steps.”
I can try the steps and prove to myself that the Nar-Anon Family Groups program, as outlined in the Nar-Anon Blue Booklet, can work for me. It means what it says. I can find serenity and peace of mind. My fellow member suggested to me that his experience could be my experience if I were willing to try it for myself. He was telling me I could learn from my own experience that this is true. The suggestion was that I follow the steps, and test them out for myself.
I know that my confidence in the steps has increased over the years as I continue to practice them. Step Nine helps me to change the way I think about everyone and everything in the world. It affords me peace of mind and releases me from guilt. What I am finding is that as I make a sincere effort to do what it tells me to do, I do experience what it says; in short, it works when I work it.
Thought for Today: I can sit around judging the steps and discussing whether the steps will work as the program says they will until I am blue in the face, and I will learn nothing. However, if I try it, if I test it out, if I practice what the program says, I will inevitably find out that the steps do work, and my conviction of their value as a spiritual practice will become unshakeable.
“Start by doing what’s necessary, then what’s possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” ~ Saint Francis