Many of the Nar-Anon meetings I attend close with the Serenity Prayer and a few words of encouragement with the collective suggestion: “Keep coming back; it works, if you work it, so work it, you’re worth it.”
Keep coming back. This was the only thing that I remember hearing at my first meeting. Initially, coming back to Nar-Anon meetings for me was not a choice I wanted to make. I came because I wanted to change my husband who is the addict in my life. One idea that I neither like nor accepted right away was that I had to change myself. I felt I had no character defects and I definitely was not the problem. I listened at meetings and to my surprise, I kept learning. By listening to other members share their experience, strength and hope, I learned two things. I was not alone and I was not without character defects.
I now know that I can go to meetings and share the anger and rage I feel. The people in these rooms understand. They do not judge me. For the first time, I have permission to be angry and I do not need to hide or feel ashamed. Once the anger has passed, I can begin to look at the one thing I can change: me. In Nar-Anon, I can heal and recover if I keep coming back and work it, because I am worth it.
Thought for Today: I know that I am not alone; I have the support of the Nar-Anon fellowship. All I need to do is to keep coming back.“Since there is no ‘arrival’, no magical day on which we suddenly achieve serenity and live on forever free of stress or strain, most of us eventually learn to be patient. We find that we can trust the process of recovery to move us ever forward, even if it sometimes feels as if we’re moving backwards.” ~ How Al-Anon Works