Before I was in recovery, I had days when I was miserable because things did not go as I planned or wanted. In the Nar-Anon program, I learned that I have tools that help me cope with life’s disappointments. I still have days where I am unhappy and disappointed in events and situations that do not unfold as I desired, but I have learned that life is neither all good nor all bad. Even when I think times are bad, I can choose to take care of myself with the help of my Higher Power by focusing on the positive and being grateful.

I was recently confronted with the loss of a loved one. I was angry, hurt and full of resentment. I felt because I was working what I believed to be a good program and asking my Higher Power for direction, that only good things would happen and I would be happy. When I shared my feelings at my Nar-Anon meeting, my group suggested that I might not be using the steps and practicing the program’s principles, which could help me through this loss. One member suggested that I try using gratitude. By actively practicing gratitude, I could change my attitude towards the event. It is my choice. Do I want to be a victim of circumstances by focusing and obsessing about things that do not go my way, or do I want to focus on the good things happening in my life and be thankful for the things I have?

Thought for Today: When I look at the word gratitude, I see attitude. When things are difficult, I can acknowledge the good and be grateful. I can change my focus and thinking to promote a good attitude, which is a step in the right direction.“Practicing gratitude will help us more fully appreciate what has been offered us. Being grateful influences our attitude; it softens our harsh exterior and takes the threat out of most situations.” ~ Each Day a New Beginning – Daily Meditations for Women