I think I am finally beginning to realize an important goal of the Nar-Anon message, to accept I have no control over the drugs or over the addict, and to accept the fact that my life is spinning out of control. My question is: “What do I do next?”
By using the tools of the program, I have learned new ways to deal with these problems. One of them is detachment. Just let go! It sounds so simple. I have come to realize that addiction makes the addict a very manipulative person, full of empty promises with no goals in life. The thought of this sends chills down my spine. Today I know there is absolutely nothing I can do or say to change that. It was a relief to have this burden taken off my back.
With the message of the program, my group and the Nar-Anon tools, I have learned to detach with love from the addict by allowing her to control her own life. She needs to make her own decisions and suffer her own consequences. I can detach with love by setting boundaries that are good for me. I can love the addict, but detach from her addiction. I can keep coming back and work the steps until they work for me.
Thought for Today: Now I allow other people to accept their own responsibilities, valuing the importance of detaching with love.
“Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties.” ~ Helen Keller