After beginning to work my Nar-Anon program, I became aware of changes in my life, both big and small. I am willing to admit that my life is not a bowl of cherries, and may never be. However, I can still find serenity and peace of mind. By attending Nar-Anon meetings and working the program, I have been able to accept my life. I have found a way to enjoy my life regardless of what the addict decides to do with his. I had to make a decision that the addict, who enjoys verbal boxing, was not going to accept change from anyone, including his Higher Power. Since sparring back and forth had been going on for many years, it finally brought me to the realization that if I wanted this situation to change, it was going to be me who would have to make the changes. So I turned our relationship over to my Higher Power, and in doing so, I allowed my Higher Power to help me make decisions regarding my relationship with the addict. It has been amazing how following the Twelve Steps has helped me to be a more understanding person with not only the addict but also everyone around me. I only need to let go of the control and the belief that everyone needed my help. The result is a healthier, happier twelve-stepper, who realized letting go is the only way to a healthy body and a happier me.

Thought for Today: I will turn my will over to a Power greater than myself. I will not try to change others. I will sit quietly and listen for direction.

Letting go of our need to control can set us and others free. It can set our Higher Power free to send the best to us.” ~ Melody Beattie