When I came to Nar-Anon I was alone, frustrated and confused. The members of my group welcomed me. I was happy to find that they cared about me and they understood me. After I had attended several meetings, I heard about sponsorship. In my area, the Nar-Anon Family Groups have sponsorship meetings. I decided to go to one, as I thought it would help my recovery to share with a fellow member in between my regular meetings. It helped me in ways I had never imagined.
In a sponsorship meeting, members are encouraged to choose a sponsor from among long-time members with whom they can share their thoughts and feelings. When I chose my sponsor, I looked for someone with whom I felt I shared a common bond.
My sponsor not only gives me suggestions and support, but a new way to look at an old problem. It is so helpful and comforting to have someone I can call when I am in a crisis, to have someone that already knows me with all my character defects. My sponsor is a good listener and that gives me an opportunity to talk about my resentments and anxieties. He also shares how he dealt with similar problems. I feel comfortable sharing my personal story in detail with my sponsor. What I did not know was that sponsors receive the same benefits from our relationship and private sharing. Sponsorship is a process that works both ways.
Thought for Today: Thanks to Nar-Anon, I have a special person who listens to my old problems and suggests new ways to respond to them. My sponsor shares his experiences with me. Sponsorship is a gift for both the sponsee and the sponsor.
”It’s good, the doing of the deed, that, once it’s done, you don’t regret, whose result you reap gratified, happy at heart.” ~ Dhammapada, 5, translated by Thanissaro Bhikkhu.