The topic of our meeting last night was “advice.” I have been in the Nar-Anon program for several years and the word “advice” reminds me of conversations with the addict in my life. He considers my advice to be lecturing. I could see others nodding in agreement when I shared about that. The addict and I are at a point in our recovery where I have asked him to let me know when he feels I am lecturing him so I can continue to work on that character defect.
I know what I have to do, but I also know that I can allow myself the time to be able to do it. I have no magic answers. I cannot let go of old habits in an instant no matter how much I wish I could. The Twelve Steps are there for me when I am ready to take them. I cannot force them to take me. I accept that one day I will be ready to work each step, and that my Higher Power will be right there with me. I am grateful that my program helps me to realize this.
Thought for Today: I do not have all the answers and that is okay. Today I will work my program and only when asked will I offer my opinions and suggestions. I do not want to fall into my old habit of lecturing.
“Advice is seldom welcome, and those who need it the most, like it the least.” ~ Lord Chesterfield