Ever since I heard the words, “I am a drug addict, and I need help,” my life has changed dramatically. I never would have thought that the man I married, my best friend and soul mate, would have such a dark secret. When I entered my first Nar-Anon meeting three days later, I was full of bitterness and anger. I felt like such a victim and was desperately searching for answers to questions about my husband’s disease. I wanted to learn everything I could about addiction. Little did I know that I would learn about the most important person in my life, me. Nar-Anon taught me to re-evaluate the person I am. I began to feel more comfortable attending meetings, especially as I got to know the people in these rooms. I felt as though I finally had a safe place where I could share my deepest feelings and get the love and support that I needed; where I could explore myself and learn to live a better life.
One day at a meeting, I shared that I was struggling with trust. I had completely lost all trust in my husband. A fellow member stated that sometime ago he had the same problem. He said that he solved it by thinking that his positive thoughts had as much chance of coming true, as did his worst-case scenario. I understood his message and started focusing on the positive side of my husband’s personality, benefiting from feeling good because of my positive thinking. Because of this change in my attitude, I began to be grateful for the fact that my husband faced his addiction and asked for help instead of feeling betrayed because he hid his terrible secret for so many years.
Thought for Today: My favorite slogans are “One Day at a Time” and “Let Go and Let God.” They have helped me to keep in touch with my positive thoughts. Nar-Anon has helped me to get in touch with my Higher Power, something I had no concept of before I found this program.
“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.” ~ William James