I experienced a painful feeling of despair when I realized I could not control the addict, cover up the problems created by his addiction, or change the events caused by the addict’s behavior. I found that my life had become unmanageable, because I was allowing the addict to have full control of my life.

I thought that the addict had the problem and was the problem. If the addict would just stop using, everything would be normal. Since my life revolved around the addict and the addict’s behavior, my involvement in the addict’s life kept me in a downward spiral of despair. I thought the only way out was to remove myself from the situation.

When I came to Nar-Anon, I heard other members talking about similar situations. However, they had a hopeful attitude about their lives. They lived with an addict, yes, but were not focused on the addict’s life. Over time, the personal despair I felt seemed to lift and I saw a way to change my life for the better. By using the Twelve Steps of the Nar-Anon program, I am finding a way to remove myself from the feelings of despair. I can now replace these feelings with serenity and peace.

Thought for Today: Despair and pain can be motivators and I can release myself from them by working the Nar-Anon program to change myself.

“Pain nourishes courage. You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to you.” ~ Mary Tyler Moore

I experienced a painful feeling of despair when I realized I could not control the addict, cover up the problems created by his addiction, or change the events caused by the addict’s behavior. I found that my life had become unmanageable, because I was allowing the addict to have full control of my life.

I thought that the addict had the problem and was the problem. If the addict would just stop using, everything would be normal. Since my life revolved around the addict and the addict’s behavior, my involvement in the addict’s life kept me in a downward spiral of despair. I thought the only way out was to remove myself from the situation.

When I came to Nar-Anon, I heard other members talking about similar situations. However, they had a hopeful attitude about their lives. They lived with an addict, yes, but were not focused on the addict’s life. Over time, the personal despair I felt seemed to lift and I saw a way to change my life for the better. By using the Twelve Steps of the Nar-Anon program, I am finding a way to remove myself from the feelings of despair. I can now replace these feelings with serenity and peace.

Thought for Today: Despair and pain can be motivators and I can release myself from them by working the Nar-Anon program to change myself.

“Pain nourishes courage. You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to you.” ~ Mary Tyler Moore